Question:My husband has never liked my dog because he's very energetic but otherwise a good, intelligent tibetan terrier. We have another dog that he likes which is a small breed and two rabbits as well, all of which he treats very well. What can I do about this behavior...it's gotten so bad he kicks him.
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Place your dog with a rescue. He does not deserve abuse, and it will be better for your pet and easier on your relationship just not to have the animal around.
I do not know about your husband or how best to deal with him, though I have my thoughts in that area. I will refrain from passing judgment and focus on finding a safe haven for your animal.
Sounds like he is abusing YOU through your dog.
He needs counseling.
Kick your husband in the head and find a new husband.
wow that could actually be considered animal abuse trying talking to him about it and tell him kicking the dont is only going to make it worse
will he be kicking the children in the future when they become energetic?
talk to your vet, maybe he can recommend a way to calm your baby down.
you might want to look into a new home for one of them.
will you be next? be VERY careful - animal abuse is how all serial killers started
It sounds like your husband is taking out his aggression on your dog. Please talk to your husband about his behavior. Kicking your dog is unacceptable. If he kicks him in your presence what is he capable of when you're not around? Dogs can't speak. Please protect your dog. All pets deserve to be treated with love and kindness. I am SO sorry your going through this. Good luck!
Ummmm.I'd put the dog up for adoption for it's own safety, or give it to a friend/family member.
So...when you have kids & one is more sassy or energetic, will he choose to beat that child?
I'd just leave the DH, he has scary, dysfunctional behavior.
Withdraw any sexual activity with the husband for a period of 3 months. That should have the educational effect.
Anyway, NOBODY should hit or kick a dog!
Key word is abusive...Did you ever think you'd want to be with any man who was abusive in ANY way? See your husband kicking the dog, kick your husbands as* out of your life!
Get rid of your husband...NOW!
I would be very concerned for my own safety as well if I were you. Abuse often starts with the pet(s) but it rarely stops there. You and your husband need to talk and he needs to seek professional help for his problem. If he is unwilling to do that, then you may be better off moving out. In the meantime, it may be worth rehoming your dog at least temporarily for his own safety. A grown man kicking a small dog can easily cause serious and fatal injuries even if the kick was unintentional, and since this kicking IS intentional it is obvious that your husband is not concerned about your dog's health, wellbeing, or life. Just be aware that abusing this particular dog seems to be how your husband takes out his frustrations/anger and by removing the dog from the home your husband may turn his abusive behavior on one or more of the other pets.
It seems like you would know more about your husband than anyone else. What do you think you should do about this?
Your husband may not have the patience to live with your dog, and terriers can be very stubborn. I don't know that the dog will calm down as an adult. It deserves to be treated better and everyone in the home will need to willingly participate in training him. Please find a new home for your do before he gets hurt.
I would talk to him very seriously about it and consider counseling. It is never acceptable to abuse an animal. Also, in my experience, abusing animals is the step before abusing a girlfriend/wife/or child. I have had several friends that were hit or attacked by their significant others and it ALWAYS started with beating up on the cat or dog, and then a few months or a year later escalated to beating the spouse or children. PLEASE seek help in this. His behaviour needs to be confronted. No animal should be abused, especially not a small one. A terrier is really no match for a full grown man.
You need to give the dog to another home or do something with your husband. I have 2 black labs I rescued from our church next door. My dogs were dropped off there in the middle of the night by a van and then the van sped away. My dogs were both very skinny and afraid of everything although Lucky (8 months at the time) was not as scared because she hadn't been subjected to a long amount of abuse compared to her mom who was 2 years at the time. It was the longest time til i could get Shadow to be completely comfortable with me (Between 1-2 years for Shadow and acouple of months for lucky). Every once in a while Shadow gets scared if you make a sudden move but for the most part she is fine now. She is a completely different dog now she will sit right next to you and play with you where as before we couldn't even pet her because she would run away. I hope this story makes you realize how bad abuse is and how big of an impact abuse makes on an animal. If an animal is too hyper what you do is train him or exercise him more.
Your husband is a giant to that dog so PLEASE seriously consider giving one of them up. There are plenty of good homes for dogs and it isn't fair to have him suffer abuse.
How cruel and rotten you are - why are YOU TOLERATING abuse?!! How dare you! You are the other adult in the house and are legally and morally responsible for ensuring there is NO ABUSE. While he may be mentally ill, YOU have no excuse! If he is harming your dog, then what are YOU doing about it?!
Get off your lazy butt and start protecting your dog. Are you so needy for a warm body, ANY body in your bed, that you would let harm come to anyone else in your household rather than put your foot down and say "NO."
That poor dog - having to suffer at the hands of you lunatics. You'd better give all your animals away so they can live fear-free and happy lives away from both of you.
And whatever you do, never breed.
Wow...If my husband were to ever mistreat any of our 3 pets, I would probably divorce him. People who abuse animals have serious issues. I guess you and your husband could take your dog to an obedience class to (a) help with the dog's unwanted behavior, and (b) to teach your husband the PROPER way to achieve getting the behavior he wants from the dog. Abuse is abuse. I would not tolerate it whatsoever.
Seriously, if I were in your shoes, I'd leave the jerk! He sounds like a vicious jerk with no conscience. I'd be surprised if he doesn't start abusing you as well. I wouldn't trust him around pets OR children. Talk to a women's shelter if you need help getting away from this monster!
While I feel for your dog and agree that you might need to find him a safe place to live temporarily, I have to tell you that this is not about your dog at all. Abusing a spouse's pet is a way for an abusive partner to hurt the other person. He's not doing it because of the dog. He's doing it because he is being mentally abusive to YOU. He knows that it's your dog, and that you care about it, so he is doing what he can to make you suffer by hurting the dog. You really need to leave. You'd be surprised how quickly things escalate. You can call 1-(800)-799-SAFE if you need help.
I agree with the answers of all these people. The man is essentially kicking you. That is the real problem, not the dog. Get help.
Call the police, call animal control, and then call a lawyer. Anyone who would abuse an animal is capable of abusing a human. It is only a matter of time. If my spouse even once kicked one of my dogs, he would be in the street immediately. Why are you allowing a poor helpless animal who depends on YOU to be treated that way?
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